You Are Enough
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Unlike most romantic movies, I believe these three words are the most important words you can say to another person. But like with all words, there is so much that lies behind these three. Not just meaning but a whole concept of habits, values, metrics and a certain mindset.
We live in a world that is constantly telling us we are not enough. We have to eat more healthy, exercise more, own more sneakers, be a better friend, better spouse, better employee, better son, daughter, mother, father, sister, brother and just an overall be a better human. It’s a never-ending message about needing to be more.
Fully believing you are enough is a rebel act in a world that constantly tells you, you are not enough.
“The biggest disease affecting humanity is the thought, I am not enough”
- Marissa Peer Psychologist
Because of this never-ending message we have developed a mental health disease according to psychologist Marissa Peer. This disease affects people of all classes, races and age. It makes us think we’re never fully ready to actually go follow our dreams, why we get imposter syndrome even after doing all the hard work and why we self sabotage.
She talks about how one of the most famous directors in Hollywood with an award shelf bigger than her house never thought he was enough simply because his father never recognised working in film as a respectable career. This disease not only leads people to not go after their goals and dreams but also even though you have success in your life it never feels like it’s enough.
But thankfully it all starts and stops with the mindset you create for yourself regarding the world you live in.
In fighting this invisible disease the best place to start is a place of Gratitude.
Gratitude turns what we have into enough.
Aesop just nailed that in less than 10 words. Like him, I believe that self work doesn’t always have to be super complicated. Even though it can take time and building new habits to support your mindset can be hard. To enhance your gratefulness in the world and turn what you have into enough, even yourself. You have to make it a habit to constantly list the things, people and events that you are grateful for to have in your life. It can be the smallest things like a butterfly landing on your car, a gif that makes you laugh out loud or having a roof over your head. Make it a habit to be the first thing you do in the morning and the last thing you do at night, either write it down or just go over it in your head, “I am grateful for…..”
And just like Alexandra Ocasio-Cortez did before her first debate: be your biggest supporter.
Even though it’s corny as fuck and honestly most self-work is. Repeat to yourself that you are knowledgeable enough, that you are prepared enough and that you deserve to have all that you want in life because:
You. Are. Enough. As you are, right this second, reading this text. It doesn’t matter what you’ve done, what you haven’t done or what you will do or what you won’t do. You are enough.